Babies On The First Date???

Contrary to popular belief, there are a LOT of single men in their thirties (and forties, for that matter) in the New York metropolitan area looking for a love connection. And not just a love connection but something serious, lasting, the ONE. At least according to the many profiles I've perused in my week as an online dater.

A lot of these guys have done the dating thing for a while and had a great time in their twenties but are now finding themselves single in a sea of couples and wanting what their buddies have - a long term relationship (sex on a regular basis), a family (mini versions of themselves), a house upstate (just another NY right of passage).....It's like while I was in a relationship for four years the universe had somehow shifted and I've suddenly been plopped into Opposite Land and the roles have been reversed!

In this new Opposite Land universe, men bring up the baby conversation on the first date. For reals. I mean, I can go there and I realize that this is a deal breaker for a lot of folks in their 30's but I couldn't help thinking that if a lady even casually mentioned something about something with the word baby in the sentence on the first date, the guy would scare away faster than you could say "I still collect cabbage patch dolls and 100 stuffed animals share my bed." Gals are taught this even before we START dating. That's like dating 101 "though shalt not utter the words marriage or babies until well into the 35th date...." or something or other. Again, many of us have been weened on Sex And The City but, damn that show was right on about so much shit.

This Opposite Land is confusing for a girl like me who just wants to get out there and have a bit of fun. I have a second date tomorrow (with last week's guy) and another first date later this week. I've just begun and I'm already having some doubts. Whatevs. I'll just roll with it for the purpose of this blog for now.